I am writing a book. There I said it out loud. **waits for tomatoes to coming flying** Nothing? **still waiting** Okay, I have to admit that telling anyone ever about me writing a book or even a blog is scary stuff. I, like most sane people, have a serious desire to be liked. Some people (or ferrets @samuel_clemons) are so charming or cute that everyone wants to be their friend. Then there are the others (me) who have wit and a razor-sharp tongue, that more often than not gets them into trouble.
I have the ability to put my foot in my mouth, so quickly that I can break the speed of light. So, making friends is hard, hard work.
Then I happened to be in Candace Havens online writing class http://www.candacehavens.com/index.php/workshops . She has an amazing talent for creating characters and worlds that seem so realistic that you say “Let’s go there for our next vacation”. And she can crack the writing whip so hard that you automatically say “Yes Ma’am!” She had Kristen Lamb on to talk to us about social media. Now, I am a lurker when it comes to online classes. I do the work, but, because of my foot/mouth syndrome I tend to not post a lot of comments.
Kristen talked about how a writer should promote themselves on social websites like twitter, Facebook, my space or even on a blog. That by doing this they connect with readers and that encourages readers to purchase your books because they feel that they have a relationship with you, the writer. Good stuff, time proven over and over again. I panicked. Walked away from the computer and didn’t log on again for two days. I looked at the class again and there she was again talking about being social. Gaaahh! I talked to my husband (he gets my jokes) and he said “Go for it”. So, I bought Kristen’s book. I got it e-book style. I let it sit in the computer for a week before I started to read it. Then I would get hives while reading the book just thinking about interacting with people online.
I had my 18 yr old daughter help me set up my Facebook page. I waited. I befriended some family members and waited again. (I was waiting for the internet police to come to my house and tell me to stop it.) I added Kristen, Jami Gold (another wonderful person) and a couple of non-writer non-family friends. Again I waited, and while I was waiting all of these people friended me back! Wow! I have friends! Then Kristen, made me a fly with her Warrior Writer’s Boot Camp. Bam! I had more friends!
Then I set up twitter and this blog on the same day. I followed everyone, on twitter, that I was friends with on Facebook. AND THEY FOLLOWED ME BACK!
This is only my second blog, and I am still waiting for the virtual tomatoes (stole that from Kristen) but, my foot/mouth syndrome is getting better, now I am down to zero to sixty seconds, instead of speed of light! I am not saying that it isn’t hard work coming out of my shell but, I have learned that it will be okay. Because there is always someone out there worse off than me ~cough, Charlie Sheen, cough~. Just saying.
If you like me are more of a lurker and want to be more social, get Kristen Lamb’s book “We Are Not Alone, a Writer’s guide to social media” or visit her blog http://warriorwriters.wordpress.com/ . She will help you with your social media and give you a good laugh too!