Welcome to Wicked Writer Wednesday.
Have you ever watched someone on TV, in the movies or just on the news, shake their head “No” when they are saying something positive?
I watched a news anchor talk about the pilots who got shot down over Libya (this was a month or so ago). She was saying that they were safe and back with the US forces. All the while she was saying this good news she was shaking her head “No”. So which is it? Good news or bad news with a sugar-coating?
Or how about in the movies when an actor, talking with another actor, says “Want to come over for dinner?” The actor asking the questions is shaking his head “No” while smiling pleasantly. So do you want me to come over for dinner or are you trying to subtly influence me into saying “No, I can’t”. Or are they saying ” I am asking you to dinner as a courtesy but, I really want you to say No.”
This action of saying the positive but motioning the negative happens more than you think. Examples are: customer “Where is the leaf lettuce?” employee smiling broadly (and shaking his head no), “It’s over by the iceberg” . Or medical assistant ” I need to draw some blood” patient “Is this going to hurt?” medical assistant (shaking head no) “I am good at this, you won’t feel it”.
Human nature is funny. We are more likely to be influenced by an action than by a comment. Next time you’re people watching, don’t just listen to the words, watch the action that accompanies the words and see which would influence you more.
Have you had this experience with “no meaning yes”? Or “yes meaning no”? Has someone’s body language changed what you thought was a positive experience to a negative one?
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